I just listened to Sex Nerd Sandra and the topic was brought up that if women didn’t have so much cultural junk going on in their heads that they could orgasm easier – At least that is how I am interpreting it. It made me think about my own orgasms.
This last year, I have been exploring my own ability to orgasm and how it relates to my relationship. I do have some issues with receiving pleasure. That is one thing that I’ve never really heard anyone talk about. How does one work on being comfortable with receiving pleasure?
I had an interesting experience a couple of months ago. We were playing with a couple and at one point the other guy was focusing a lot of attention on me – he wanted me to have an orgasm. This had never come up before. I usually give the attention. If I am receiving anything it is usually being penetrated by penis or fingers. Until that time no one has touched my clit for any length of time.
Here’s what one website says about what women need in order to orgasm:
Although females vary, many women need the following if they’re going to reach a climax easily:
- a romantic atmosphere
- pleasant, comfortable surroundings
- a partner who they really like
- a feeling of being wanted and appreciated
- a good flow of natural lubrication – so that the delicate female parts don’t get sore
- a skilled partner who knows how to stimulate the clitoris.
All of theses things can be easily achieved with it is just the two of us, but I have no idea how to do it when we are with other people.